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To me, uniquity=weird… being yourself… allowing parts of yourself that you believe others would think unacceptable to emerge into the light.
Most of us feel like we’re weird. Out there… Different… A misfit…
…that there’s something about us that no one could ever accept and quite possibly would ridicule us for. And often it’s the juiciest, most interesting piece of ourselves. So we keep these parts hidden away in the dark closets of our psyches. We deem them as unacceptable, inappropriate (especially in business), unlovable, ugly, too much. Or too little.
I’ve been part of Michelle Ward’s Clubhouse, a mastermind for brilliant and creative entrepreneurs, for over a year and I’ve had Michelle’s and the group’s support for perhaps the most profound transformation in my 45-year trip around the sun: I came out as a mermaid.
So…this is going to sound weird, but here I go. And, I’m going to give you quick snippets of events and experiences in chronological order.
In 2012, we had the mermaid photoshoot that graces the pages of this website.
I recently gave a workshop to 65 people total at Pacifica Graduate Institute‘s conference, The Writers Journey: Outside in and Back Again.
One of the participants, who is now a client, told me later that she wanted to work with me after I did a certain part of the workshop.
After giving my shpiel about good marketing and branding, by using storytelling techniques, I decided to tell a story whilst playing my congas.
As I began, my client told me that at first she was revolted by this display.
“This isn’t what someone should do when giving a workshop about marketing! What does this have to do with marketing?”
In the middle of my story/conga playing, she found herself relaxing into it and realizing that she also wanted to break out of her own preconceived notions that were keeping her locked into a career track that was well-defined, traditional and ultimately unfulfilling. Now, she is beginning to walk a new path and blaze her own trail.
Because I showed up, boldly proclaiming my weirdness, my uniquity, I embodied an image of her authentic self. The self that she is now becoming.
And, that is just one story out of at least 30 comments that I’ve received over the past year where someone told me that because I came out as my wild authentic self, they felt they had permission to do the same.
It’s time to throw away “good” manners and just get real. It will give your brain a burst of feel-good dopamine. And, amazingly, you’ll find that more people are on board with you and your business.
Come out n’ play. I can’t wait to see your unbound soul emerge into the light.