Sacred Pleasure Pause: Episode 3, David Deida “Dear Lover”


For the next month and into 2020, my mission is to help you feel vibrant and energized by sharing deeply sensual meditations through my Sacred Pleasure Pause podcasts.

This month, let’s dive into the words of D.D. in his book “Dear Lover: A Woman’s Guide to Men, Sex, and Love’s Deepest Bliss.”

David is the author of the ever popular, “Way of the Superior Man.” To be honest, as an embodied woman, I can’t get into it. But David’s book, Dear Lover, has just the right language to bring out my romantic and ecstatic side.

(Even if you’re a man, I think you’ll love some of these passages.)

Chapter 1

“Dear lover, when I look into your eyes, I feel your heart’s yearning. Nothing is more beautiful to me than your love. I want to drink your love and dive into your heart and take you open to God. But I need to feel you wanting me to enter you. I want to feel you let down your guard in trust, just a little bit, so I can feel your heart’s invitation. Please, open so I may claim your heart.

When you feel deep into your heart, you feel love. Most deeply, you are love.

This love shines as light, and so you want to be truly seen.

This light flows as energy, and so you want to offer yourself completely.

Your heart wants to give and receive love fully. This is your heart’s deepest desire.

Love is openness. This openness yearns at everybody’s heart. You are this love. You are alive as love, and your entire body yearns to live open as love. Your heart wants nothing more than to live open as love, to give yourself totally as love–and to be seen as the love that you are. You long to be claimed, taken open, surrendered blissfully, so that every moment of your life is ablaze as the light of love’s passion, an offering of your heart’s devotion, and adoration of love’s radiant blessing.

The secret to unfolding your heart’s deepest bliss is to give and receive love fully, with or without a man. Instead of depending on a man, and instead of protecting your heart behind walls of accumulated disappointment, you can learn to open your body as if it were a big heart, vulnerable and full of love’s radiant life force.”


With Love + Pleasure,



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